Firstly, we shall define the concept of the series “Marriage”
Marriage is an integral part of life. It is an institution designed by God for the purpose of procreation, social interaction and integration, sharing of values and predicaments and generally, to make man happy.
A lady/man who is matured enough to go into marriage but does not have the opportunity suffers psychological trauma, reproach, loss of sense of belonging, desperation, pains and mockery. She/he is not being regarded as someone who has integrity and respect as many view her from the perspective of being grossly irresponsible.
Unfortunately, many girls/guys in our country today are victims of this delay; while some have deliberately decided not to go into marriage until they achieve certain things in life; most ladies have become victims of marital delay due to forces beyond their control.
I am sharing this motivations,trusting God that at the end Somebody will be bless.
Now having Clearly understood the concept,
*Reasons Why Some Christian Youth Delay In Marriage**
I once spoke with a lady concerning giving her life to Christ and serving God. I told her that if she serves the Lord, God will give her every other blessing she needed, according to His promise in the Holy scripture (Matt 6:33) ..”But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and His righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you”. She replied that she didn’t really mind giving her life to Christ but that the problem was that most of the single girls she saw in churches had been there for a long time and still single and that she didn’t want to be in the queue of having to remain single for ages. I later reasoned along that line.
These days I have come to observe that most Christian ladies and even men in the church would pray and pray, fast and fast, for life partners, yet to no avail.
Does it now mean that God does not answer prayer any more? Is God no longer faithful? What’s going on?
The truth is that God is ever faithful, ever ready to answer prayers. He is still in the business of doing good and wiping away His children’s tears. But there are so many reasons why our young people these days, particularly Christians, delay in marriage.
From my personal observations and research, I discovered that some of these problems can be traced, (However not limited) to the following: Unpreparedness for marriage, Ancestral tread. Unfaithfulness, asking amiss, demonic oppression, unconfused sin and many others.
Unpreparedness for marriage: – there are lots of youths today, wishing and praying to get married, but in the real sense, they are not prepared for it, in the sense that they are unprepared mentally, psychologically and financially. This can be called immaturity. God cannot be so unfair as to take a beloved son of his and give to one person who does not even know what marriage is all about, let alone being prepared for it. What does Unpreparedness for marriage really mean?
Unpreparedness For Marriage
As J. Allen Peterson puts it “Our young people are being given a definition of love by those who have not experienced it. They know so much about sex, little about love. Our teens rush into marriage when they are still utterly unready”.
What does it mean to be ready for marriage? To be ready for marriage means to be mature enough to have established a sense of personal identity, to have discovered one’s self and to have developed a direction for one’s life that offers promise for the future. It means to be mature enough to be ready to spend the rest of one’s life with only one partner exclusively with responsibility; to know how to carry out one’s family duties like cooking, washing, keeping a home and provide for the family. To be able to control one’s emotions and not beat up one’s partner when provoked etc.
If for instance, a lady is asking God for a husband and meanwhile, she can’t ‘even cook, would God not be unjust to give such a lady to a faithful young man who has been serving God faithfully and preparing himself?
No man, I emphasize; NO MAN! who doesn’t love to be married, no man who’s not ever eagerly waiting to have a help meet/mate, a woman who compliment him and augment his livelihood.
Also there’s no Single Lady out there who doesn’t envy the married ones, who doesn’t wish to wear the ring in her fingers, who doesn’t wish to have her own matrimonial home!
This is the problem:
The most beautiful girls are born, but the virtuous ladies are yet to be born or discovered!
We have excellent and caring ladies as girl friends but few are home builders!
A lady who doesn’t like to have a living mother in-law will have to wait to when the destined mother in-law will die- thereby disconnecting her from her destiny.
Just FEW ladies want to marry a hustling guy, many wants the Ready-mades guy.
Not all single ladies who are struggling wants to graduate to level 2 struggling with a struggling man!
We have many beautifully looking ladies who are established but lacks character and virtue.
We also have ladies who holds to class; if the standard of the guy doesn’t fit her class, then it can’t work.
Many ladies have been spiritually brainwashed and blind folded by some acclaimed preachers and pastors who in their bids for marital connection have messed up their destinies.
Many sisters have missed their destined husbands by public display of bad attitude and make ups.
As for men;
Many men have been carried away by beauty, they keep changing their minds upon the sight of another beautiful lady.
Many men are ready but lacks the finance to marry.
The hike of marital rites in our lands is becoming excruciatingly alarming.
Some men are afraid to marry, while others keep waiting for the ready made classic ladies.
No man wants to marry an idle Lady today.
Many men are afraid to propose to classic ladies to avoid a possible insult or embarrassment.
The problem is all singles are in relationships but only few are talking about marriage!
Some are still single because they want a perfect, elaborate wedding!
… To be continued!
N.B All suggestions, questions and inquiry about this series to be forwarded to YOUTHS AND RELATIONSHIPS NETWORK(YARN) Facebook group or firstname.lastname@example.org